COVID bereavement is a particular type of grief.
COVID-19 bereavement can be a challenging bereavement it may be that I can can help you with that.
Loosing a loved one from COVID-19 has for many been a particularly intense bereavement. This has been challenging and is likely to have left many people feeling the grieving process is incomplete. Sometimes we need help in dealing with these things.
Because the nature of COVID grief is so specific, the usual ways we as individuals deal with bereaved may simply not be sufficient. For this reason I feel it’s important to look at what we can do for ourselves and recognise when we need help. I have heard clients describe feeling that because ‘everyone has lost someone’ they didn’t feel they could ‘indulge’ themselves and had to just carry on. Although there have been very high numbers of people who have died from COVID-19, each death and each loss is individual and is just as valid as any other form of bereavement.
Every bereaved person has the right to be cared for and receive support. If this didn’t feel appropriate especially in the first days and weeks following the bereavement, let’s deal with it now.
We know from research, that self-care, and care from people around us, and care from professionals like myself can make a real positive difference. It can mean that it is more comfortable to grieve and that, over time, you can a recover with good mental health and move on with your life with a positive frame of mind.
If that wasn’t available to you at the time of the loss, then let’s do that now. Let’s talk and grieve and use the tools of my profession to acknowledge and release grief. To hold onto what and who you loved, rather than focusing on the loss. Un resolved grief is something I can help with.
Research also tells us, that traumatically bereaved people are more likely to develop mental I’ll health conditions such as depression anxiety or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). If you think you may be heading in that direction, dont wait and hope it goes away with time. Let’s deal with it right now!
I’m writing about this from the heart having lost a close family member to COVID-19. Myself and my family faced the difficulties of not being able to visit and be with someone and feeling helpless and worrying about her and how she was feeling. So I really do know where you are as it were.
Here are some tips for self care, this isn’t indulgent, it’s therapeutic!
1, take time. Give yourself time and space to come to terms with what has happened. Grief can’t be rushed.
2, revisit happier memories and talk about them.
3, dont shy away from thinking about what has happened. It may be painful but it’s important to recognise it as part of your experience. But dont dwell on eat.
4, eat and drink properly. Keep yourself physically well can help combat low mood.
5, go for walks and spend time in nature. Green spaces, the sights and sounds of nature can be healing and have the effect of grounding you.
6, most important of all, talk to people. Talk about what has happened, about the person who has died, say their name. Talk about how you feel, and express your feelings. Avoid bottling things up.
7, crying is natural so give yourself permission to do it!
If you would like to discuss this with me or generally find out more about what I do, please give me a call on 01922 649142 or text/WhatsApp/call 07956322170