COVID-19 bereavement can be a challenging bereavement it may be that I can can help you with that.
Loosing a loved one from COVID-19 has for many been a particularly intense bereavement. This has been challenging and is likely to have left many people feeling the grieving process is incomplete. Sometimes we need help in dealing with these things.
Because the nature of COVID grief is so specific, the usual ways we as individuals deal with bereaved may simply not be sufficient. For this reason I feel it’s important to look at what we can do for ourselves and recognise when we need help. I have heard clients describe feeling that because ‘everyone has lost someone’ they didn’t feel they could ‘indulge’ themselves and had to just carry on. Although there have been very high numbers of people who have died from COVID-19, each death and each loss is individual and is just as valid as any other form of bereavement.
Every bereaved person has the right to be cared for and receive support. If this didn’t feel appropriate especially in the first days and weeks following the bereavement, let’s deal with it now.
We know from research, that self-care, and care from people around us, and care from professionals like myself can make a real positive difference. It can mean that it is more comfortable to grieve and that, over time, you can a recover with good mental health and move on with your life with a positive frame of mind.
If that wasn’t available to you at the time of the loss, then let’s do that now. Let’s talk and grieve and use the tools of my profession to acknowledge and release grief. To hold onto what and who you loved, rather than focusing on the loss. Un resolved grief is something I can help with.
Research also tells us, that traumatically bereaved people are more likely to develop mental I’ll health conditions such as depression anxiety or post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). If you think you may be heading in that direction, dont wait and hope it goes away with time. Let’s deal with it right now!
I’m writing about this from the heart having lost a close family member to COVID-19. Myself and my family faced the difficulties of not being able to visit and be with someone and feeling helpless and worrying about her and how she was feeling. So I really do know where you are as it were.
Here are some tips for self care, this isn’t indulgent, it’s therapeutic!
1, take time. Give yourself time and space to come to terms with what has happened. Grief can’t be rushed.
2, revisit happier memories and talk about them.
3, dont shy away from thinking about what has happened. It may be painful but it’s important to recognise it as part of your experience. But dont dwell on eat.
4, eat and drink properly. Keep yourself physically well can help combat low mood.
5, go for walks and spend time in nature. Green spaces, the sights and sounds of nature can be healing and have the effect of grounding you.
6, most important of all, talk to people. Talk about what has happened, about the person who has died, say their name. Talk about how you feel, and express your feelings. Avoid bottling things up.
7, crying is natural so give yourself permission to do it!
If you would like to discuss this with me or generally find out more about what I do, please give me a call on 01922 649142 or text/WhatsApp/call 07956322170
How much of a problem is hoardingThere has been quite a lot in the press and on TV recently about hoarding and you might be forgiven for thinking it’s a new problem, recently discovered by the great British journalist. Far from it people have always hoarded, its the perception and perhaps number that’s changed, plus the visibility of the problem.
Previously hoarders were called eccentrics, mainly if they were well to do, and having the money to hoard kind of implies this, or if you were less well to do you would be called less polite names and would struggle with your problem often being seen as one of hygiene as much as hoarding.
In recent years our understanding of the issues around hoarding and compulsive acquiring has increased and much research has been done to establish that hoarding is a problem in its own right and not simply an aspect or category of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.
The key to this being a disorder; a mental health problem, rather than just being a bit messy or disorganised is the extent to which it impedes normal function, family life and the level of unhappiness it causes. I have never met a happy hoarder. A hoarder might think ‘if I had the space to keep all my stuff tidy’ or ‘if only people would leave me alone with my stuff’ or ‘I’m not a hoarder I am a collector’ and think they could be happy and hoard happily if the conditions (more space, more understanding family, access to more stuff) were right, however that is a delusion. Thinking you can be happy and a hoarder is a sign that it’s a disorder for two reasons; 1 because it’s the hoarding that makes you unhappy, 2 it’s an example of a distorted/disordered though pattern, you can’t be safe and well an happy in the middle of a hoard (think Howard Hughes, mega rich and living in the middle of his hoard of bodily waste=miserably). In reality hoarding makes you unsafe, unwell and unhappy.
I’ve worked with a number of hoarders and identified a number of though patterns and processes that contribute to the problem. I will share some of these thoughts with you, obviously without breaching any confidences; I will give you an insight into the way hoarding affect people’s lives and why.
So to answer how much of a problem is hoarding, watch this space! Or if you already know then give me a call and let me help you deal with it and find the life buried under your hoard.
Andrea 01922 649142
Sports massage for Window cleaners and OlympiansSo are any Walsall athletes going to be in the Olympics? And how do they keep in shape = Sports massage
We all I am sure wish Ellie Simmonds all the very best, she is an inspiration. We wondered if any other local sports people would be competing in this years Olympics, all we get on the TV is the hype around the event and then the results there is not much coverage of the hard slog to get up to the required standard in terms of fitness and performance. If you do know of any local competitors who have qualified, let us know or get in touch as we are already supporting a local gymnast to prepare, and would be happy to help others.
We archive peak fitness by developing and enhancing the action of muscles, by having a responsive and flexible cardiovascular system and by having the lung capacity to provide the correct balance of gasses for the appropriate respiratory response to exertion. Muscles are at the core of this, coordination, strength, stamina the ability to stretch and flex all require particular types of muscle development specific to the sport we are undertaking. An archer needs stability of posture, upper body strength and hand eye coordination, with a combination of gross and fine motor skills. These are not the same requirements as a footballer, who needs to be able to have a flexible posture, strong leg muscles, and the ability to accelerate and decelerate repeatedly.
Getting ready for most people conjures up, images of the gym, and lots of practice, but believe me there is more to it than that. whether You are a footballer, a runner, boxer, gymnast or swimmer you benefit from a sports massage because it not only enhances your performance, it also reduces the risk of injury and enables you to sustain your performance for longer over a longer period of time.
Athletes benefit from the kind of massage that will focus on issues such as the build up of stress in hypertonic muscle. This type of massage is not about lying down and relaxing while a therapist works on your muscles with gentle strokes, instead it is is an active and interactive form of activity, which involves the active manipulation of soft tissue, flexing of joints, pressure on trigger points and deep intensive work on specific muscles. Unlike a full body Swedish massage, sports massage will focus on a particular muscle or set of muscles and work on them extensively, so it’s not for the faint hearted, but then neither is running a marathon.
The benefits of ongoing sports massage include; reduced recovery time between workouts or events, reduced risk of minor injury or wear and tear resulting from routine performance and reduction in the risk of major injury due to accidents or overreaching in performance (think about Wayne Rooneys famous metatarsal or the crusciate ligament injuries which are the Bain of footballers) the extension of an athletes active years and of course better results.
At Walsall MindandBody we recommend building up a relationship with your sports massage therapist and discussing with them, your sport, your performance schedule, your strengths and weakness’s etc so they can help you improve and plan. By getting to know your aims they can work closely with you to help you achieve them and keep in tip top shape.
Oh and by the way it’s not just athletes who benefit in this way, we treat police officers, fire officers, window cleaners roofers, builders and just folk who work out at the gym. If you would like a chat, ring us on 01922 649142
Treating a Trapped nerve with Acupuncture
A ‘trapped nerve’ describes compression on the nerve, usually due to pressure applied by the surrounding tissue, muscle, tendon or bone. This can present as pain in the neck and shoulder, back, legs, arms and wrists. Common examples include; bulging of the spinal discs and carpel tunnel syndrome. In other less serious causes it can be due to muscle spasm or other mechanical factors.
The resulting pressure results in inflammation of the nerves giving rise to pain in the area which may radiates to other parts of the body, numbness and tingling, burning sensation and weakness. Once the pressure is relieved the nerve function recovers, but with chronic pain permanent nerve damage can occur.
In my Acupuncture practice cases of pain caused by nerve compression are quite common. Most present with severe almost agonising pain. There is limited or very little relief from pain killers, they are unable to sit, lie down or walk without discomfort, unable to adequately perform daily activities, have to take time off work and a good night’s sleep has become a distant memory. Where the problem is muscular Acupuncture can be used effectively for pain relief, reduce inflammation and easing the muscle spasm. More and more research is showing the efficacy of acupuncture for pain relief; as show on the BBCs ‘Trust Me I’m a Dr‘
Acupuncture works by stimulating the ‘Qi’ (vital energy) to flow properly within the impaired qi pathways known as ‘meridians’. Needles help to release neurochemicals such as endorphins which change the way pain is processed in the brain and spinal cord, as well as release of vascular and immunomodulatory factors that reduce inflammation. As a standard I also use some soft tissue manipulation such as massage or cupping to reduce soft tissue constraints, tension and enhance blood flow. In my experience a combined integrative treatment approach greatly enhances the overall outcome.
After suffering from agonising tearful pain symptoms, recently a client received a combined acupuncture and massage treatment, along with electro-acupuncture which involves the use of electrical needle stimulation. Not only did their pain symptoms significantly improve but they were pleasantly surprised that their mood was considerably uplifted. Their feedback was…. “I feel so much happier”. This is a welcome and inevitable effect of acupuncture, confirming results from many scientific studies that it benefits not just the physical but also the mental and emotional.
Dr Rhonda Lee is a highly experienced Holistic physician working with chronic and complex care conditions for nearly 25 yrs. Aside from her medical training she is qualified in acupuncture, nutrition, massage and a number of other disciplines. To learn more about how acupuncture or a combined treatment can help you, call or book an appointment with Dr Lee. Tel: 07810024687 or 01922649142
The most recent development in mindfulness meditation courses now available.
The ‘A Mindful Life’ is an innovative new programme aimed at helping people to overcome the obstacles that act as barriers to a peaceful, centred and fulfilled life. A range of attendance option are available. The course uses a combination of Mindfulness , MBSR, MBCT, CBT, NLP and self Hypnosis, synthesised into a straight forward framework suitable for anyone (no previous experience required) Each session consists of a basic grounding mediation to help us to get into the right Mindset to participate, followed by a discussion on the topic of the session accompanied by specific activities which we learn and then apply to given situations in our everyday life.
The overall aim of the course is to enable people to make their life feel better, and feel better about their life. We can’t always choose what goes on in our lives, things such as work pressure, relationship problems or financial pressures, what we can choose (yes really) is how we respond to these challenges. The course helps us to learn how to make these choices by being able to reprogram our thought habits and take control of our actions mindfully.
The class us taught by our experienced meditation teacher Andrea Bradley who developed this programme as a way of providing people with the opportunity to take back control in situations which often feel outside of our control. As a professional therapist Andrea works extensively with people t and who are stressed anxious and unhappy, these feelings usually arise not as a result of any specific situation but as a result of how we feel about and respond to it. This can be seen from the fact that different people react differently in the same situation. We generally learn how to respond based on our past experience, so let’s use that same learning process but take control of it mindfully. Read more
24th of August
Walsall Mind and Body Centre
4a Hawes Close,
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