Counselling is one of the talking therapies and it’s aim is to allow a person to talk about their problems and feelings in a confidential and dependable environment.
A counsellor is trained to listen with empathy (by putting themselves in your shoes). They can help you deal with any negative thoughts and feelings that you have. Counselling enables you to reflect on your situation and perhaps through this process gain new insights enabling you to develop new solutions. Counsellors do not offer advice, there role is to facilitate your own thought process and explore your feelings.
Counselling is helpful for a range of situations and conditions including:
borderline personality disorder (BPD)
obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD)
post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
eating disorders, such as anorexia nervosa and bulimia
cope with a bereavement or relationship breakdown
cope with redundancy or work-related stress
explore issues such as sexual identity
deal with issues that are preventing you from achieving your ambitions
deal with feelings of depression or sadness, and have a more positive outlook on life
understand yourself and your problems better
feel more confident
develop a better understanding of other people’s points of view
Counselling aims to help you deal with and overcome issues that are causing pain or making you feel uncomfortable.
It can provide a safe and regular space for you to talk and explore difficult feelings. The counsellor is there to support you and respect your views. They will not usually give advice, but will help you to find your own insight and understanding of your problems.
Counselling can help you to:
Counselling can often involve talking about difficult or painful feelings and, as you begin to face them, you may feel worse in some ways. However, with the help and support of your therapist, you should gradually start to feel better.
In most cases, it takes a number of sessions before the counselling starts to make a difference, and a regular commitment is required to make the best use of the therapy.
What to expect from counselling
During your counselling sessions, you will be encouraged to express your feelings and emotions freely. By discussing your concerns with you, the counsellor can help you to gain a better understanding of your feelings and thought processes, as well as identifying ways of finding your own solutions to problems.
The counsellor may encourage you to identify issues and, if appropriate, take personal responsibility for them. They will be able to help you recognise the effects of other people and their actions, and explore alternative ways of coping with them.
It can be a great relief to share your worries and fears with someone who acknowledges your feelings and is able to help you reach a positive solution.
Trusting your counsellor is essential and one of the key skills of a counsellor is developing a positive professional relationship with the client, this is important for the counselling to be effective,.